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Ask These Questions to Change Your Mind.

I spent the entire day working on a piece about how often single, child-free people, (often women) are excluded from the social life of couples.

Then, I convinced myself it was offensive, everyone would hate me, unsubscribe en masse, and send me spiteful emails.

I have slipped into the stream of cognitive distortion.

Instead of sharing the piece I've spent nine hours writing, I am sending you a worksheet that targets irrational thoughts. This worksheet, based on a concept from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy called cognitively restructuring, helps people identify and change unhelpful thoughts using a method known as Socratic Questioning.

Perhaps I’ll return to the other piece and send it next week.

Until then, it’s time to interrogate ourselves, and see if we can begin seeing things objectively.

And by “we”…

(I mean me).

I’m also sharing the excellent resource where I found this worksheet. It’s one therapists use, now at your fingertips (at the bottom).

THE RESOURCE!

And more on S, here:

What a day.

Until next week I will remain…